Author†s Mission to Eliminate Bad Rap and Squelch Myths about Single Dads
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Author’s Mission to Eliminate Bad Rap and Squelch Myths about Single Dads
Jorge Arguello, the “Super Single Dad” and author of a new e-book, “The Super Single Dad: Artfully Raising Children,” is on a mission to remove, once and for all, the bad rap that single fathers have endured for decades.
Redding, CA — Single dads have been getting a bad rap for years, and it’s time that we put all that negative press to rest.
Everyone remembers the line from Network, “I’m mad as hell and I’m not going to take it anymore!” Well that’s exactly how author Jorge Arguello feels when it comes to divorced dads, single dads with part time custody, and moreover the single fathers that are raising their kids by themselves without the aid of the other parent at all.
When asked why he feels that way he replies, “Look, it’s been that way for decades. It’s in commercials, in the news or stupid cop shows, and even in those “where are they” type shows” he says.
“They portray divorced dads as deadbeat, always shirking their responsibilities and running off with a young bimbette, leaving poor helpless female on her own tackling everything and raising the children all by herself. What a bunch of hogwash; it just doesn’t hold true, especially today.”
Arguello continues, “Dads today are more involved with their children than ever before and are willing to take on the responsibility of raising his children. I’m afraid the courts look at the genitalia and still figure that women do a better job, but it just isn’t true anymore and men are stepping up to the plate and doing a better job at it than women are.”
“The fact of the matter is that the courts are still treating dads unfairly,” Arguello states.
“On a recent survey of divorcenet.com, the question asked was if dads are still getting a raw deal and the survey came back a resounding YES. 1,255 Divorcenet.com users weighed in on the question, “Do Divorce Courts Treat Fathers Fairly?” and more than 81% of survey respondents answered no while less than 19% answered yes. This is 2006 people not 1806 and as long as the courts perpetuate the myth, the media and pop culture will continue to believe that moms do it better and that dads are just deadbeat.”
Arguello raised his children practically from birth by himself and without the other parent involved. When asked how was it that he was able to have full custody and raise them on his own, he answered, “I fought for that right, and privilege.” He writes more about this in his blog at http://super-singledad.blogspot.com
“First she abandoned us/them but later decided that she wanted to ‘get back in the fray’ as it were. The short story is that the courts didn’t fall for the reasons she wanted them to believe and, genitalia aside, awarded me full custody,” Arguello smiled.
“I have raised them on my own and this year my daughter graduated high school honorably, with my son graduating this year and with honors as well.”
He continues, “Everyone that knows me and my children attest to the fact they turned out wonderful and that I did a great job. I don’t say all this to be some hero, but I know that there are many guys going through divorce where the female uses the children as pawns for power, when all he wants to do is be with his kids.
“The courts sometime fail to see that dad can be, and often is, more nurturing than the other parent and that’s a shame because the kids suffer needlessly.”
Truly, Arguello recognizes that things have changed, and that the number of single fathers raising children increased approximately 25 percent between 1995 and 2003, outpacing the growth of single mothers. There are now approximately 2.2 million single fathers, up from 1.7 million in 1995.
“Yes, it is better now, but I am on a mission to educate not only the media and pop culture, but also the single dads raising their children to do it artfully. That’s why I wrote my e-book primer, ‘The Super Single Dad; Artfully Raising Children’ which is at www.supersingledads.com because I want single dads to overcome what we all have been programmed for ages to believe, reinforced by bogus lies based on the myths created about single dads.”